Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Child Marriages Or Child Brides Justified

You tube has a video of Shaykh Bilal Philips attempting to say that child marriages or child brides isn't the same thing. You see they are married, and according to him once a girl hits puberty according to law they can marry. If a man for 50 years old for example wishes to take an 11 year old as his bride THAT is not Pedophilia. He took examples of France, England, USA people going to countries like asia that sell their children off for other's pleasures, and leave as a good cause for pedophilia. They aren't doing the same thing. They marry the girls. If the girl Menstrual period has started then she is ready for marriage. They said that is consenual marriage. HOW a child of that age knows what they are consenting to I will never know. I'm sure some are very aware, and don't wish to do this...but then you have 'honor' issue.

He mentions that 1,400 YEARS ago in England and other countries marriage at that age happened all the time! You see their lifes were shorter, and if you were 50 you are on your way out...if NOT before! Are you going to call them into pedophilia.

I don't know about you but the society I grew up in doesn't do alot of things that they did in the past. I don't remember the last time one of my neighbors threw human waste in the middle of the street either. They didn't have toilets, and they didn't know how they were spreading disease and all the rest around. They changed that with findings it was causing health issues, but I guess if you want to use this agruement that would fine as well now if you do that also? Girls that young may have Menstrual periods, but alot of times they bodies aren't ready to bare children. Their maturity level isn't ready for a position within a marriage. Maybe we figured that out with time as well, and are we to ignore that? They say Prophet Mohammed consummated his marriage to his favourite wife when she was 9, but I don't think they truly KNEW the consquences of doing so at such a young age. Are they saying he would have done it if he had known this?

Above a youtube poster interruptation of such insanity that marrying a young girl off is moral. It seems ACT also doesn't agree with their interruptation either. These men need to stop justifying forced rape upon children like Nujood Ali, and others like her. They need to realize they are harming these girls, and I can't believe they would say that would honor Allah. Sorry - I don't buy it. They are called child marriages for a reason - they are children! They are child brides for that same reason.

Morocco shuts schools advocating child marriage

Dhimmi Watch Mentioned:

Morocco shuts down Qur'anic schools advocating child marriage
Anti-Sharia Alert -- although there are certain to be protests from traditional Muslims against this, since there is an abundance of evidence from the Islamic sources that Muhammad consummated his marriage with Aisha when she was nine.

Aired on LBC TV (Lebanon) - June 19, 2008 Dr. Ahmad Al-Mub'i, a Saudi Marriage Officiant: It Is Allowed to Marry a Girl at the Age of One, If Sex Is postponed. The Prophet Muhammad, Whose Model We Follow, Married 'Aisha When She Was Six and Had Sex with Her When She Was Nine.'

Okay fine tradition and cultures are different all over the world. The last line of the video, "Who said all men are ferocious wolves!". What has that got to do with anything? Nujood Ali was very lucky someone took pity on her, because it seems even her family felt they couldn't protect her against the ferocious wolf she married! When you have an environment in which nothing can be done about this, or the odds against you are HUGE of doing anything about it...that's called enabling the problem to continue! They do nothing about the ferocious wolves, and yet use the excuse that not ALL men are. Oh yeah - that will solve alot!

The article continues:

Authorities in Morocco have shut down around 60 Koranic schools belonging to a Muslim theologian who argues that girls as young as nine can marry, officials said today.

The authorities also plan to close down the Internet site on which Sheikh Mohamed Ben Abderrahman Al-Maghraoui decreed earlier this month that the marriage of nine-year-old girls is allowed by Islam.

The sheikh said his decree was based on the fact that the Prophet Mohammed consummated his marriage to his favourite wife when she was that age.

Lawyers, the media, and finally Muslim scholars rounded on Maghraoui for effectively seeking to legalise pedophilia.

The gentlemen in the video seems to legalize pedophilia! Shutting down schools that feel this practice is acceptable is fine, but what else is being done to stop this? There are alot of Nujood Ali's out there!

Child Brides sanctioned by the Prophet Mohammed

As I do more reading about Mujood Ali and other child brides we find that some clerics feel this is sanctioned by Prophet Mohammed. As you remember CBS News Reported:

Nujood Ali was married at the age of nine to a man three times her age. It’s not an uncommon practice. Roughly half of Yemeni girls are married before 18, some as young as 8 years old. But it’s unusual and unlawful for those marriages to be consummated before the bride turns 15. But in Nujood’s case, her husband didn’t wait. And after enduring several weeks of abuse, Nujood one morning boarded a bus to head off to court in the city of Sana’a, Yemen’s capital. There she would wait for a judge to notice her. And there she would tell him, "I want a divorce."

He took her home to shelter her from her family, and then introduced her to Shada Nassar, one of a handful of female lawyers who is a staunch women’s rights advocate. Based on her husband’s own admission that he had slept with her, Nujood was granted a divorce. Since then, she’s inspired other girls forced into marriage to seek divorces. And she’s viewed by many in her country with bringing attention to a dangerous practice.

YES it would seem a very dangerous practice since girls of that age aren't mature enough to truly handle this role.

The Daily Nation reports:

Undoubtedly having heard of Nujood’s case, Mr Maghraoui, a Sulfist, issued the fatwa in June. He gave a crude rationale. A nine-year-old girl, he said, “has the same sexual capacity as a woman of 20 and over.” Moreover, “girls that age give better benefits than adult women.”

Lawyers, the media, Muslim scholars and the High Council of Ulemas hit back on what they considered legalisation of paedophilia. Authorities shut down Mr Al Maghraoui’s operations, including the website that carried the fatwa.

How completely sick is that? GIRLS that age give better benefits tha adult women? This man can say what he wishes, but I can't shallow the fact that any prophet would encourage pedophilia.

Defination: As a medical diagnosis, it is defined as a psychological disorder in which an adult experiences a sexual preference for prepubescent children.

The story continues:

Opponents of the practice tend to use high-sounding phraseology like “abuse of children’s rights” in condemnation. Simply, child brides suffer complications in pregnancy and delivery. Death hovers. Deliveries tend to be premature. Infant mortality is high and baby weight is low. That’s useless procreation.

Those engaging in child marriages operate on a myth that a girl is ready for marriage, hence childbirth, on menstruation.

Rubbish! Medically, menstruation is just an occurrence in a journey from childhood to adulthood. The journey’s duration varies from individual to individual. Hence, a tendency exists to advocate marriage at a safer age, for example 18.

Evidence exists that those who engage in the practice of child marriages inflict bodily and psychological pain. Unfortunately, international effort to fight the practice isn’t anywhere commensurate to the problem a la the fight against HIV/Aids.

Moreover, the practice is so much of a waste. Asked what she planned to do, Nujood said she would return to school and study to be a lawyer or journalist. Kids have dreams, hopes and goals. Why shatter them?

Why shatter them? They have better benefits for the MEN! Bleck!

It seems this cause for young child brides is being brought front and center somewhat. I can't believe that people actually believe that Child Brides are sanctioned by the Prophet Mohammed.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Nujood Ali and Arwa Abdu Muhammand Ali

The Epoch Times Shows a Picture of Nujood Ali(L), and Arwa Abdu Muhammad Ali(R) two of the young child brides that were allowed divorce from their husbands after enduring sexual abuse, physical abuse at the hands of their husbands.

Look at these children! THAT'S Right CHILDREN! I hope Shada Nasser the lawyer that helped Nujood Ali does help change the laws, and help educate this area about how WRONG this is!

Child Bride and Divorce In Yemen

Child marriage and divorce in Yemen story on the BBC news show two additional girls that were forced into sexual abuse before the law states is allowed. I have to wonder if Yemen could introduce a law about pedophilia. I suppose within that culture that may not be possible.

Arwa Abdu Muhammad Ali

BBC News reports Arwa was sold off:

Coming in from the street where he's been digging drains, Abdul Mohammed Ali takes up the story. He describes how a stranger, a man in his mid forties, approached him in the market asking if he knew of any marriageable girls.
Jibla village has been in the news since Arwa's request

After visiting their home and seeing Arwa and her 15-year-old sister, he opted for the younger child. Abdul Ali says the man promised he would wait for the girl to reach puberty before calling her to his house but then changed his mind and came to live with them.

So why did he sell his daughter to a stranger?

"He gave me 30,000 rial ($150, £90) and promised another 400,000 ($2,000). I was really in need of money and thought it was a solution for the family," he explains.

For seven months, Arwa's husband shared the small room where the family eat, play and sleep.

When Arwa fought off his advances, she was beaten. The torment only came to an end when her husband and father quarrelled and Abdul Ali gave her permission to seek outside help.

At this point in the narrative, she finds her voice again, describing how she went looking for a neighbour who could lend her money for the journey to court where the judge took pity on her and granted her freedom.

A medical examination showed that she had been sexually molested but was still technically a virgin

Arwa's audacity in seeking a divorce was inspired by the example of Nujood, another young girl from the capital, Sanaa, who has become a national celebrity.

Reem was married at 12, and again you are to wait until your bride is mature enough to become sexually active. Her husband also refused to wait.

she describes the moment when her 30-year-old husband insisted on sex. When she resisted, he choked and bit her and dragged her by the hair, overwhelming her with force.
Reem wants a divorce and then a college education

She was imprisoned for 11 days in his house and tried to kill herself with a kitchen knife before being rescued by her mother.

Although Yemen has a law stating that 15 is the marriageable age, it is frequently flouted, particularly in poor rural areas where society is run along tribal lines.

It seems to me that the government is making excuses about such marriages when they release a comment like:

Sheikh Hamoud Hashim al-Tharihi is general secretary of the increasingly influential Vice and Virtue Committee and a member of the Islah Party. He cites the example of the Prophet Muhammad who married six-year-old Aisha but waited for consummation till she was a little older.

"Because this happened to the Prophet, we cannot tell people that it is prohibited to marry at an early age," he argues. Moreover, he claims it would harm society by spreading vice.

You would hope this would be the end of the miserable existance for this girls, but as the article ends:

At her home in Jibla, Arwa is putting the past behind her and returning to childish games of hide and seek in the narrow passageways near her home.

But, without a firm lead from government, her father Abdul Ali may be tempted a second time to take money for his daughter's hand in marriage, curtailing her childhood once and for all.

It seems she will be yet again a Child Bride in Yemen, and who knows if a divorce would happen again.

Nujood Ali's Annullment

SHADMIA’S WORLD has nice pictures of Nujood Ali, including Nojoud's former husband (left)Faez Ali Thameur and Nojour's father Mohammad Ali Al-Ahdal (right) attended the hearing. I encourage you to read the story that the author has included as well!

Nujood Ali a Yemeni child bride gets annullment instead of a divorce for good reasons! According the BBC News:

Shatha Nasser says the judge annulled the marriage instead of granting a divorce, to stop the husband trying to reinstate the wedlock.

"We are grateful to the judge" she explains. "Had it been someone with strong traditional views, Nojoud could have been sent back home."

It seems that she is now living with her uncle as well

Instead, Nojoud is now living with her maternal uncle, Shu'ee Salem Attabi'ee.

Shu’ee told the BBC that his brother-in-law had had no control over the events.

"He is too frail to defend himself or his family" he explained.

"Nojoud is living happily with me and my eight other children. She is looking forward to going back to primary school as soon as possible."

Nujood Mohammed Ali is Yemen’s most famous divorcee

Nujood Mohammed Ali is Yemen’s most famous divorcee Reports Glamour Magazine:

Before her marriage, Nujood loved school—specifically math and Quran classes—and made her father promise not to pull her out to be wed. But when she was nine, her parents arranged a husband for her. Nujood was dazzled by her wedding presents: three dresses; perfume; two hairbrushes; and two hijabs, or women’s head scarves. The groom, a 30-year-old courier, gave her a $20 ring, which Nujood says he soon took back to buy clothes for himself. She tells her story sitting on a grubby mattress in one of two rooms shared by her nine family members in Sana’a, Yemen’s capital. A bare bulb illuminates a clock on the wall. It’s nearly midnight, but Nujood’s beloved Haifa, nine, is still selling gum on the street corner. Their father, Ali Mohammed Ahdal, a former street sweeper, has 16 children, two wives, and no job.

Two months after her wedding, Nujood returned to her family’s house to visit Haifa. When her parents left for the day, Nujood did something virtually unheard-of in Yemen: She went out by herself and took a bus and a taxi to Sana’a’s main court. All morning she waited, until a judge saw her sitting there. “I want a divorce,” Nujood told him. The story of Nujood’s audacity spread to Shada Nasser, a human rights lawyer. “I didn’t believe it,” she says. She asked why the girl needed a divorce. Nujood’s reply: “I hate the night.” Nasser agreed to take the case free of charge. “But you must smile,” she said, “and you must trust me.”

So what can American women do to help child brides? Most advocates say that schools are crucial—that educating girls is the best way to change the culture. “When you promote education, you create new roles for women,” says Gabool al-Mutawakel, general manager of the Girls World Communication Center (GWCC) in Sana’a, which offers courses in English, computers and family planning to impoverished girls. In honor of Nujood and Nasser, Glamour has chosen the GWCC to be the recipient of money raised through the 2008 Glamour Women of the Year Fund initiative; donations that readers make will help child brides and girls at risk of early marriage finish school. “Yemeni people are receptive to educated women in the workforce,” al-Mutawakel says. “When a woman can contribute, they’re encouraging.”

Nujood’s divorce reinforced her spirit. “It made me strong,” she smiles. “Now my life is sweet as candy.” Back with her family, she says she wants to be a lawyer; two foreign benefactors have agreed to pay for her school supplies and higher education. This fall, Nujood went to school for the first time since her marriage. On that day, in her brand-new uniform—a bottle-green robe and a white hijab—Nujood stood with Haifa in the sunny schoolyard, waiting for her hard-won childhood to begin again.

I hope Nujood Ali the most famous divorcee starts to enjoy her childhood again, and does great in school!

Nujood Ali & Shada Nasser Accept Glamour's Women of the Year Award

Nujood Ali and Shada Nasser recieve the award, and speak to the audience that gave them HUGE applauds!

Glamour Magazine has done a story on both Nujood Ali and Shada Nasser as well!

Nujood Ali wins 'Woman of the Year' Glamour Magazine's Award

Nujood Ali Wins "Woman of the Year Award" as reported on Mideast Youth

It was mentioned in the story:

Nujood’s tale of suffering and rebellion caused a massive outcry within Yemen and garnered international media attention. Many viewed her as a symbol of oppression and the brutality of patriarchy, but for others, she was a source of inspiration. Following in her footsteps, victims of child marriage have begun speaking out and demanding justice, while activists and governmental officials in Yemen (one of the world’s worst offenders in terms of the prevalence of child marriage) have called for measures to end the practice of early marriage.
In honour of her bravery, and the self-less dedication of her lawyer, Glamour magazine awarded them the “Women of the Year” award, alongside Hilary Clinton, Condoleezza Rice and Jane Goodall and the Nobel Women’s Initiative. At only 10 years of age, Nujood is likely to be the youngest recipient of this award in its 19 year history.

The Award was given by Glamour Magazine, and I saw GOOD FOR THEM! I hope Nujood Ali's story helps the lives of other young girls in her country! Congratulations on Winning 'Woman on the Year'!